relationship capital

[Dario Silva]

As an old Roman Catholic born and taught dogma prior to Vatican II (pre
1960's), I was taught that we had this treasure chest in the sky (I think
heaven). Anytime we did something good a bit of grace was put into our
treasure chest and anytime we committed a sin, especially a mortal sin, the
treasure chest was dumped out. Well, that caused a lot of havoc in my mind.
I use to play outside a lot trying to see if I could catch some of the grace
that was being dumped out from either mine or other's treasure chests.
Needless to say, I was never vitamin D deficient.  Thanks to some personal
psychodrama, I have since dropped the idea of a heaven full of accountants
and a God that keeps score. 

 

I too would like to know what spiritual capital means. 

 

Dario

 

 

 

***For your protection, please note that e-mail is not a confidential means
of communication.***

 

  _____  

From: list-bounces at grouptalkweb.org [mailto:list-bounces at grouptalkweb.org]
On Behalf Of Adam Blatner
Sent: Wednesday, August 29, 2007 8:10 AM
To: connie at souldrama.com; Peter Howie
Cc: list at grouptalkweb.org
Subject: relationship capital

 

Dear Peter, Connie, and all,

     Cleaning up emails, I'm intrigued by the concept of spiritual capital,
and more with relationship capital.

           The latter term I can relate to: \

 

   Peter, though you're a bit uncomfortable with the term, still, your quote
about "An English chap, Charles Handy, uses the term relationship capital in
a similar way and also talks about have a bank account - can't quite
remember the term - probably because it am not comfortable with it - his
idea being that we make deposits into the emotional relationship bank
account and that allows us to spend it at a later time - i.e. being
influential and asking favours, being forgiven for faux pas and mistakes
etc. " -- rings true and has implications for sociometry, especially in the
arena of reciprocity.

      If I've reached out to some relatives---I'm thinking of some
cousins---and received very few responses, after a while, I draw back, begin
to send them cheaper Christmas cards, don't bother to include them if we're
sending photos, gradually wean them from our emotional "investment."  The
idea that we should have no sense of balance, equity, that we should forgive
our enemies, is interesting. Does it mean that we should keep trying even in
the face of evidence that the other person doesn't like us, or appreciate
us?

     What gets me are those folks who are outwardly friendly, seemingly
sincere, yet who are too busy to reciprocate, call back, do any outreach
spontaneously. Yet they seem to be surprised if we become hurt or distant.
It's as if they think their good will and genuine pleasure can make up for a
deeper message that, aside from our moments of connection, it is clear that
we don't have any priority in their list of to-dos.  The temptation is to
stay open, but I wonder if one of the implications of sociometry is to watch
for the evidences of mutual tele, reciprocity, those folks who seem as
interested in us as we are in them. 

      

     As for spiritual capital, having read that passage, I confess, I just
don't get it. Connie, can you offer a few examples of what this term means?
Not definitions, which are abstract, but examples?

 

     Warmly, Adam

-------------- next part --------------
An HTML attachment was scrubbed...
URL: http://grouptalkweb.org/pipermail/list_grouptalkweb.org/attachments/20070829/d6f464f8/attachment.html