confidentiality and funerals.

[bernard widlake]

I am responding to list serve through Adam.
About confidentialitiy. I do not think email is yet safe for confidential material even when there is an agreement that it will be there. It is so easy to press the wrong button and send things all over the place. So mateiral should be safeguarded by anonimity, I believe.
On funerals. I have officiated at many funerals, and in recent years have been asked to officiate as a non-denominational person. The occasions have impressed me immensely. In both recent cases the family was profoundly involved, and their contributions drawn together, so that there was involvement in a vairiey of ways. There is a tendancy now to celebrate life, and not get into the supernatural, and I think this is what I would want for myself. But as Adam points out, there are going to be a variety of people there, each with their own response and agenda, The advantage of a ceremony is that it provides a space for the containment as well as the expression of deeply felt sense of loss and bereavement and a sense that   what can be done has been done to bid farewell to the deceased, and to celebrate their life.


Well, that's me.
Best wishes,
Bernard.            
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