psychosocial development

[Adam Blatner]

Hi Ivo, thanks for your support, and I agree with some of your ideas, but I can't let the following go by: 

   I think it's Ivo saying: "...when we judge others we are exactly what we judge – it is an astonishing psycho-mathematical process."
         AB: This strikes me as probably mistaken, though I may be mistaken (ha ha).
    1. I judge people for smoking around me, I find them inconsiderate of the smells they're making me smell.
    2. I judge people for playing very loud music, I find this a bit insensitive in some settings. It is not insensitive in settings in which most of the audience is there because the music is loud---then they are responding to the needs of those attending, and if I don't like it, it's okay that I leave. 
    3. I judge people for being in a role in which communications skills are needed---such as a telemarketer--- and they speak with such a thick dialect or mumble that I cannot understand them. I think that is mainly the fault of those who hire them, though. There's a slight judgment for people who seem to have no recognition that their speech habits may be inadequate for the job. 

        ... and so forth. So how is this... what Ivo says...      So if we judge acts or persons for being irrational, deeply we know that we too could act or do in the same way. But it is important to distinguish judgments from discernment. Ideally every psychotherapists should make discernment's about their clients…not judgments…(I will really appreciate if someone could develop more this point…) 

           or am I not clear on what it is that distinguishes judgment from discernment? Please offer clearer criteria. 

   Warmly, Adam
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